Wisconsin Community Mental Health Counseling Centers, Inc.

Your partner wants you to realize your dreams and will do anything to help achieve them.

They are self-sufficient and complete human beings. If not, then you must neglect part of yourself in some way to compensate for their deficiency.

They take responsibility for their own happiness. It is not your job!

They don't use negative tactics for getting their own way or dominating you. Criticism, put-downs, guilt, shame, intolerance, neglect, combativeness, aggression, and threat: the list goes on. Silence can be a negative tactic, if there is communication that needs to take place, and so can defensiveness.

When they speak to you, it is always with love, acceptance and approval.

They support and respect your ideas, beliefs and wishes no matter how different from their own.

Your self-esteem improves when you are together.

Your circle of friends grows.

They do little things to please you.

When something bothers you, they are truly concerned.

They help resolve problems.

They help you find time for yourself. Without this you will never grow.

They share in responsibilities, even with things that are unpleasant or mundane.

Your time is just as valuable as theirs.

They give you freedom to try new things, take chances and to make mistakes. Human beings are constantly evolving and are not meant to be caged physically, emotionally or psychologically.

In short, they provide the security, love and nurturing that is required for you to soar where life itself is wonderful and the relationships are an added bonus. Because you are willing to do the same for them, the relationship will continue to scale new heights while love, honor and respect grows deeper and broader. Spiritually, there will be no point to where you begin and they end. With an open heart and mind, this can never feel like work. It can only bring joy and satisfaction. It is easy to get bogged down in the everyday routines but to help the development of those around you is truly an accomplishment. For those who are healing, even if only from childhood, you will need this more than others. They especially need time to grieve and then to learn to accept and move on. It is difficult to grieve when we do not exist for ourselves. It is important that we are able to recognize the need for healing not only in others but especially ourselves. If we are patient with ourselves then we can be patient with others. How ee talk to ourselves will reflect in how we talk to others. It all begins inwardly and will impact everyone around you.